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The Audacity of Hope

I don’t often write stories, and I’m a little leery of putting this one up, but I need to.  I started it months ago but just couldn’t finish it at the time.  This may be the first in a series of stories, the rest of which should not be so dark, I’m not entirely sure I’ll get around to finishing the next one, though (I’ve been working on it for a year or more and it’s not half done).  In any case, there is some content here that will be disturbing to most people, so proceed with caution.

All characters in this story are fictitious, but certain themes run repeatedly through our community, and we have lost far too many.  While some of the characters here may seem to have bits and pieces of various people, they are not meant to be representative of any individual or group.  It is important to examine ourselves, our perspectives, our delusions, and our blind spots.   Things are not always what they seem.   Most aren’t evil, but some people are.   Most aren’t completely mistaken, or misleading others, but some people are, and do.   No one is completely innocent.

If you recognize yourself or someone else in one of the characters, it is coincidental.  Before you get too upset with me, remember that this is just one possible story, about one fictitious girl and the people around her, in one little corner of a world that only resembles our own. Though those who know me well will likely see parts of me in at least one of these characters, I have tried to write from various perspectives here, and it should not be assumed that I align with any particular view or statement or conclusion of any of these characters.



Once upon a time there was a little girl named Hope.

Hope, so named by her optimistic young mother, was a fairly easy baby.  She slept every night, entertained herself for hours, and rarely cried.  Unfortunately, her mother was not expecting all the work involved in raising a child, even an easy one, and didn’t fully appreciate Hope’s demeanor.

Each diaper change reminded her of the fun she could be having doing anything else.   Each time her daughter wanted to nurse she cringed.  Formula was out of the question — babies were expensive enough already — but the thought of the little leech sucking her dry was enough to cause panic attacks.   So, she fed her often enough to keep her from starving, and started mashing up a little of her own food for her as soon as she could get away with it.

She was eventually able to ditch the nursing bras, as Hope started taking regular milk and solid food, and life was better for a time.  Freedom was obtained, at least to some degree.  She was able to pass off the easy-going toddler to friends and family members on a fairly regular basis, and she regained a semblance of a life.

As Hope began to grow, though, it became apparent that something was off.   She wasn’t talking like the other toddlers, and she was a little too happy to be left to entertain herself so often.  This honestly wasn’t a problem for her mother, who was more than happy to avoid the clinginess she saw from other toddlers.   Hope had been a leech as an infant, after all, and she was well and truly happy to be past all of that.   Potty training was going well, and once the diaper stage was over she would be free.

But as time went on, other people started noticing the differences and became concerned.  She started having to field little comments and questions from friends, family members, and random strangers on the playground (she sometimes sent Hope to play in the sandbox — where she would pick up sand and watch it fall through her hands over and over again — just to keep her occupied, so she could text her friends in peace).   Hope was happy, and Hope was letting her live her life, she honestly couldn’t see what the big deal was.

But soon, everywhere she went someone would want to talk about Hope’s “issues”.  People started pointing out the ways Hope moved and asking if she did that all the time.  Words like “stimming” and “spectrum” started getting thrown around.  Suddenly everyone she knew was concerned about her child’s development.   It was exhausting, and she wished people would just leave her alone about it.   Hope was happy, couldn’t they see that?

So she ignored them all as long as she could, and just got on with her life. When it came time to put Hope in preschool she was ecstatic.  Even more freedom!   There were no tears cried on the first day of school, for either of them.   After a few weeks, though, she got a call from the preschool.  It seemed they had joined the chorus; they wanted her to get Hope evaluated.   Since she couldn’t exactly ignore them she went ahead and went through the motions.  And low and behold, they decided her daughter had Autism.

Her daughter.   Autism.  Of all things, her own daughter was a freak.  Great.  Her luck, this would involve short buses at some point.   If that won’t mess up your social life, nothing will.  She had been grooming her boyfriend and was pretty sure he’d ask her to marry him soon, but what are the chances he’d want to take on a ‘special’ kid?  Her life may well be over.   Great.

They told her Hope would need therapy, lots of it.  They said early intervention was the key and threw a bunch of letters at her, like ABA and PT and OT and … she just stopped listening at some point.   She decided to just nod her head and go with whatever they wanted to do.   It was clear that her social life was gone.  And with all the therapy sessions she was once again tied to her daughter, nearly 24/7.  And the paperwork.   The paperwork was endless.   Hope had become a leech again, without even trying.

Her life suddenly revolved around a preschooler, completely.  Every day was scheduled.   If she wasn’t busy filling out more paperwork she was shuttling the kid to one therapy session or another.   Everyone she knew was suddenly an expert, and she was being inundated with links and books about all the latest fad diets and treatments.  The noise was deafening.   She couldn’t talk to anyone without them asking about Hope, they didn’t even care about her anymore.  Hope might be happy, but what was she supposed to do with a broken kid?  She no longer had time for dating or partying or anything.

She was reminded of those early months, tied to a nursing baby, stuck at home… unable to have a life.   At least then there was a time limit on it — a baby wouldn’t nurse forever.   But amidst all of the noise she kept hearing how autism was a lifelong thing.   Early intervention could help, they said, early intervention and endless therapy was necessary, but there was no real cure.  Her life was forever over.  She saw stats somewhere about how couples with autistic kids get divorced, and knew that she’d probably never get anyone to marry her now (that boyfriend had taken off a while back).   She was frequently stuck with other parents in the waiting rooms at various therapy sessions, and they often talked about how their children would probably be living with them for the rest of their lives.  Forever.   No end.

And that’s when she really started getting angry.   The little leech, innocent as she might be, had stolen her life.  She didn’t sign up for this.  This is not what motherhood was supposed to have been.  Her daughter was supposed to be singing her ABC’s and coming home with macaroni art and dressing up for ridiculous school plays to entertain her grandparents, not stuck in an endless string of therapy sessions just to get her to stop acting like a freak.  And there was no way to deny it at this point, her daughter was becoming downright weird.


The older Hope got, the more obvious it was that she was different than the other kids. She was happy to be left alone — she liked to be free to watch the world, study the way things moved, and get lost in all the beautiful patterns around her — but no one was leaving her alone these days.   People were constantly bugging her and making her do things she had no interest in doing.  They kept trying to stop her from learning and doing the things she needed to do.  They kept forcing her to look into their scary eyes, which were always trying to reach into her soul and steal glimpses of things they had no right to see.  School used to be fun, but now it was just torture.  Everyone treated her like she was stupid and she didn’t know how to convince them she wasn’t.

But worst of all, her Mom was mad, all. the. time.   She was always mumbling about how “autism” had stolen her life.  Hope didn’t know what autism was, exactly, but she knew she had it, and she knew everyone wanted rid of it.  But whenever Mommy started ranting about autism she would list all of the things that made Hope, Hope.  Like so many things in her life, it was very confusing.  Mommy said she wasn’t mad at her, but she was always mad at autism, and this autism sure sounded like her.  Mommy always said it was bad to lie, but Mommy lied a lot, and Hope suspected she was lying about this, too.

So Hope tried really hard to cheer Mommy up, to please her teachers and make the therapists happy and even to make friends so they would stop talking about all of her ‘social problems’.   But it was hard.  There were rules for when to do what, how to be normal… but there were too many exceptions to the rules and no one was willing to explain them to her.  Other people broke the rules and no one seemed to care, but every time Hope broke a rule, even if it was one she had never heard about before, she got in trouble.

And Mommy was always mad, and she had found new friends that were just as angry about autism as she was.  Sometimes they would get together and drink wine and rant and rave about how evil autism was, how it had stolen all of their children.  Mommy always thought Hope was sleeping, but it’s hard to sleep through that.

Hope saw a show one day where a mom was really upset about something, and her daughter gave her a big hug, and it cheered her up.  So the next time Mommy was upset Hope ran up and gave her a big hug.  She just shoved Hope away and asked what she was doing, it was too hot for hugs.   Except it wasn’t hot.  But Hope never tried to to hug her again, except for hellos and goodbyes, where it was required.   So confusing.

Hope didn’t know how everyone else learned all the rules and exceptions.  People kept telling her she had no common sense, though.   Maybe there was supposed to be a pre-installed rule book in her brain, and God just missed passing out that piece to her.

To top it all off, everything was overwhelming.   The neighbor liked to mow his yard every Saturday morning really early, and the sound of the mower made Hope sick.  She couldn’t escape the noise, even hiding in a closet with 5 pillows over her head.   Mommy didn’t seem to notice.  Sometimes there was so much bustle in the hallways at school Hope felt like a minnow in a sea of piranhas, and she had to hide in a bathroom stall until things calmed down.   No one else seemed to notice.  There was a high pitched squeal in one of the classrooms, whenever Hope was there she could hardly hear anything else or concentrate on anything, it was so distracting.  No one else seemed to notice.  There were a million little things that made life hard for Hope, and no one else ever noticed.   Hope learned a long time ago that if she complained about them she would be laughed at, so she just tried to figure out how to live with them.

Drumming her fingers on her desk helped break up that high pitched squeal, but it annoyed her teacher.   Rocking helped calm her down when the world was going crazy around her, but apparently rocking made her a freak.   Every time she found something that soothed her and helped her do better, someone would laugh at her or tell her it was weird and she needed to stop doing it.

So Hope started studying people. She started trying to act like the other girls she saw, talk like them, do the kinds of things they did.  There were a lot of things she just couldn’t do, but she tried.  Maybe other people did notice after all, maybe they had been through the same thing and had already learned how to deal with things on their own.   Whenever she saw someone doing something that seemed like it might help, she would watch them for a while, and see if anyone made fun of them.   If no one seemed to notice, or no one cared, then she would study them a while longer, and practice doing it when she was alone, until she could do it exactly the same as they did.

Every once in a while she’d get lucky and the news station would run a story about something that other kids did to “gain control”.  The newscasters were always ominous, telling parents they needed to watch out because their kids were doing dangerous things, but the things they showed were intriguing.  Things like eating disorders and cutting and suffocation — they all sounded horrible and shocking at first, but then they would interview a kid… and the kid would say how it helped him feel in control, grounded, how it helped calm the pain, and Hope would wonder… The best part about the news programs was that they always told parents how their kids were hiding these things.  It was like an instruction booklet.   Hope loved rules she didn’t have to try to figure out on her own.

She tried a lot of things.  Sometimes they helped, sometimes they didn’t.   She kept the things that helped and tried integrating them into her life, eventually.  Sometimes people still made fun of her for things others could do in the open without ridicule, and she never could figure out why.  She had to abandon many things, but she managed to hide a few and every once in a while she found something she could keep.

As time went on Hope thought she was doing a pretty good job.  The world was finally starting to make a little sense.  She had enough coping mechanisms that she was no longer having to hide in corners or closets or bathroom stalls very often.   She almost never freaked out and cried til she puked anymore, and even the therapists seemed to think she was doing a great job.  But Mommy was still mad.   Mommy was always mad.  And Mommy had taken her anger to the internet.


“We will win this fight.” Hope’s mom told herself that every morning.   She had accepted that her old life was well and truly gone, and had decided to pour herself into the fight against autism.  This disease had stolen enough of the world’s children, and she was starting to understand who was to blame.   She wished she hadn’t ignored all of those emails and books that people had tried to get her to read back when Hope was a toddler.  Long ago her friend Mary had tried to tell her that there were cures Big Pharma didn’t want people to know about, but it had gotten lost in all of the noise.  If she had looked into it back then maybe she could have cured Hope.  She had tried the diets and the supplements and some of the more expensive treatments anyway eventually, but she had known it was a futile effort.  It was too late for Hope.  She was too old.  The damage was done, permanent.   Autism had stolen her daughter long ago, and all she could do was show her to the world and try to help others avoid the same fate.

Some of the treatments had worked, at least.  When she put Hope on a gluten free diet all of that ridiculous rocking had finally subsided.   With the addition of a couple of supplements she started hearing good reports from the teachers and therapists.   And it had been a while since she’d been called into school because her daughter was cowering in a broom closet over a fire alarm.

But the autism was still there.  Still hiding behind her daughter’s eyes, messing up her life in a million little ways.  At least she had finally found some friends again.  Talking to people online wasn’t as good as being able to go out and party with a group on the weekends, but she had found a whole community that didn’t run away when she told them about her daughter’s problems, and there were a few parents in the area she could hang out with at least.

Blogging was fun, really.   It wasn’t her favorite thing in the world but it wasn’t bad.  She had always been a decent writer.  If she did it right, she could make a little money at it, and she loved having an excuse to carry her camera around all the time.   The one thing autism hadn’t managed to steal from her daughter was the incredibly good looks she’d gotten from her mother, and she soon found that with creative camera angles she could hide her weirdness when she wanted to.

The thing she loved most about blogging, though, was that everyone suddenly cared about her again, and not just about Hope.   When she first started blogging she had tried to present only the good side of her life.   If you can’t say anything nice, and all that jazz… but the more comfortable she got with the media, and with her online friends, the more she started sharing.   It turned out she got more response to posts the more uncomfortable they were, so she started being more real more often, and her readership soared.   People all over the world were coming to her blog to commiserate with her.   People new to the community with younger kids started asking her for advice, and she was more than happy to give it.  She ate up the attention, and she kept on sharing.

She was still mad at autism though, and she used her new soapbox to help teach people about who was responsible.   She saw it as a war against a machine, and it was a war she was going to try to find a way to win.  Since the alternative treatments had helped control Hope’s issues some, she had been able to cut back on some of the therapy sessions and other nonsense, and this gave her more time to concentrate on the fight.

And then puberty hit, and all hell broke loose, so to speak.  She had been warned about puberty, but she was not prepared for this.  Hope started to sulk all the time.  The happy little girl was gone, replaced by a moody, stinky teenager, who had no common sense whatsoever.   Every single thing had to to be spelled out pedantically for her, from the need to wear a bra to what to do with a pad… and every single discussion led to her stomping off in a rage.  The last straw came when she walked in on Hope in the bathroom one day by accident, and found her cutting her leg with a razor blade.  Not shaving, mind you, cutting into her leg, with a straight razor.   And her reaction to being caught? She held up the bloody razor and started screaming.

After everything she had done to fight autism, her own daughter was threatening her with a razor blade and screaming bloody murder.   She was at a loss for what to do, so she ran out and barred the bathroom door until Hope calmed down.   Once she’d gotten a drink of wine, and calmed down a bit, she decided she’d better document the ordeal.   Maybe one of her friends would know what to do.  She found her camera and went to see if Hope had calmed down enough for pictures.   She found her curled in a ball, crying and rocking, as if she were the one who had been threatened.   There was blood all over the bathroom, but the bleeding seemed to have stopped on it’s own, so she just started taking pictures.


Life had gotten better for a little while. Hope had made a few friends, they weren’t close, but they were something.   She had been doing well in school and therapy and had built up enough coping methods that she could navigate her days without any major meltdowns.   But her mom was still angry.   It didn’t seem to matter how much better Hope was doing, her mom just kept right on complaining about how much autism was ruining her life.   It was clear by this point that when she said autism, she really did mean Hope.

Hope wasn’t very good at picking up on nonverbal cues, but there was no way to mistake her mom’s hatred.  Sure, she was always pandering for her friends and blog readers, telling them how much she loved her daughter in spite of the autism that had taken over their lives, but it was clear by the way she acted that those were just lies.  Mom used to try to make her readers think that her life was perfect, except for the autism, but that changed after a while.  Now she mostly just told them how awful autism (Hope) was.

Mom seemed to think Hope didn’t even understand what the blog was, but how could she not?   Mom’s every waking moment was spent either writing a blog entry, reading comments on the blog, talking to one of her online friends, or harassing Hope with that blasted camera.  Hope read it every once in a while, just to see what Mom was saying.   Most of the time she wished she hadn’t, but morbid curiosity kept her going back.   And Hope wasn’t the only one that knew about the blog.  The other kids at school knew, too.  Yeah, her mom posted ‘anonymously’, but it was a fairly small town, and someone had figured it out.  The other kids started perusing the blog and the torment and bullying she had worked so hard to escape from started up all over again.

It wasn’t hard for them to find fodder, either. Her meltdowns weren’t all that common anymore, she had worked hard to get them under control, but her mom had taken to snapping shots whenever she had one, and then describing them in detail on the blog, to educate others on the realities of autism.   And when she didn’t have any new embarrassing stories to post about she would just tell an old one from when Hope was little and lost in the world.  Sometimes those old stories were kind of cute, but there was always an undertone, she was showing the world what autism had done to her family.  The bullies at school ate it up.

Life had become hell, and Hope had no idea how to escape.   She thought about killing herself from time to time, but she knew what that would mean, and as bad as things were, real eternal hell had to be worse than this living hell that would surely, eventually, have to end.

And then she hit puberty. People were always warning kids about puberty.  Showing stupid videos about life changes that all the kids just laughed at, because most of them were filmed in ancient times and they were so very ridiculous.  Hope knew better than to ignore them, though, because she could tell this meant new rules she would need to learn.  Unfortunately, they didn’t cover half of what she needed to know, and she couldn’t make words come out when she tried to ask anyone.

Her mom was no help.  No big surprise there.  After she started her period, she managed to find a way to tell her mom about it, but all she did was point out some tampons and panty liners in the cabinet, and say she’d better not catch her stopping up the toilet or leaving messes anywhere.   She didn’t even know if teenagers were really supposed to use tampons, they hurt when she tried them, but she was afraid if she asked too much it would end up on the blog and everyone at school would know.

Hope was out riding her bike one day when the neighborhood bully, a girl a couple years older than her, started yelling and laughing about bouncing, and asked Hope why she wasn’t wearing a bra.  Hope had never thought about bras before.  She went to ask her mom about it, for lack of anyone else, and was met with peals of laughter.   After she finally stopped laughing she took Hope to a store and helped her pick out a few one-size-fits all kind of bras, so that she wouldn’t have to bother again later.

And that was when Hope got angry.   Hope was confused a lot of the time, but one thing she knew for sure was that it was a mom’s job to help her daughter enter womanhood.   Hope had been working hard, for years, for her whole life, to learn the rules and follow them and not make waves, and her mom still hated her.  Mom would always hate her.  Mom said she hated autism, but what she really hated was Hope.  Maybe she hated autism too, but she hated Hope.  Maybe Hope deserved to be hated.  Maybe this autism really had stolen her away and destroyed the perfect little girl her mother would have had otherwise, but Hope was what was left.  And Hope was trying incredibly hard to be the best Hope she could possibly be.   And even though her mother hated her — even if it was justified — if she couldn’t even live up to the basic requirements of her job as a mother, then Hope was done.

Hope stopped trying to please her mother after that.  Finally realizing that it was a futile effort.   She spent her energy, instead, on just trying to get through each day.   Hope had never really gotten angry at people before, but she found it started happening more and more often.   She figured maybe it was contagious.   Her mother had been mad for as long as she could remember, maybe it was genetic and puberty brought it out.  For whatever reason, she found herself lashing out at people more often, instead of only cowering.

She knew that was a really bad direction to go, though.  Hate and anger were toxic.   She had seen what it had done to her mother, and her mother’s friends; and genetic or not, she wanted no part of it.  So she started trying harder to control her outbursts and meltdowns.   It was impossible.   Most of the little things she’d picked up as coping mechanisms over the years simply did not work for this stuff.   She was constantly lashing out and getting in trouble anyway.

She got hurt one day and found out that pain actually helped some, though.  Pain tended to steal her focus away from the things that were bothering her, and it made it easier to ignore the triggers.   But pain was hard to use.  Banging your head against a wall wasn’t exactly socially acceptable, or particularly safe.   And most things that cause pain only last for a very short time.   She needed something she could take with her.  She started thinking back to some of those news programs and remembered the one on cutting.  She wasn’t too thrilled with the idea of scars, but getting cut didn’t just hurt when it happened, the pain tended to linger.  It was distracting in a way that made her rule it out a few years ago, but maybe it was what she needed now.

That news story had showed kids with scars all up and down their arms.  Hope thought that was ridiculous.   Why would they want to have to wear long sleeves for the rest of their lives?  So Hope picked a place that no one would likely ever see (face it, no one was ever going to go out with her anyway), and determined to only make a small scar.  Infected cuts hurt longer, so she just grabbed an old razor blade from her mom’s toolbox instead of getting a new one out.

She couldn’t make herself cut deeply at first.  She just kind of scratched her thigh the first time.  It didn’t help at all, so she cut deeper the next time, and that did work.  She felt guilty, and stupid, and more broken than ever, all day long.  The pain was a constant reminder of what a failure she was.  But it also distracted her from everything.   The cut got infected and started itching and that worked even better.   But she got a little worried about getting caught if the infection got too bad, so she put some ointment on it eventually, and it healed up.  After a few days she decided the experiment had been a success, and she cut it open again, in the same spot so she she wouldn’t end up with a whole lot of scars.  She could explain one scar away, even if someone did see it.

After a few weeks Hope had found a new routine, and was getting her outbursts under control.   She bought a pocket knife and started carrying it with her, just in case she needed to make the cut deeper.  She was still using other coping mechanisms some, but the cutting was the one that really worked.   She felt like crap all the time, but at least she was able to hide it, and everything else, passably well again.

She didn’t care anymore if her Mom hated her, though.   And she had stopped trying to please her.  She did the bare minimum on her chores, to avoid the fights, and avoided her as much as possible.   She couldn’t tell whether Mom even noticed, but she didn’t care.  With the tantrums and meltdowns down some again she was able to slide under the radar and wasn’t being harassed as much at school, and that worked for her.  Until Mom walked in on her in the bathroom one day.

Of all the people to catch her cutting, it had to be her mom.   Her self-centered, angry mom, who already hated everything about her.   And now she knew.  She knew her daughter was not only stolen away by autism, but was now one of those freaks the news stations use on primetime stories to scare other parents.   Her mom, who blogged about everything.   Her secret was not only out, but out in the most horrible way possible.   The whole school was going to know by tomorrow.   And to top it all off, she’d been caught with her pants down, and Mom was standing there in the doorway with a look on her face that Hope couldn’t quite place.   She just stood there looking… what?  What was that?

Hope didn’t know, but she had yelped and thrown up her hands as soon as her mom walked in, and after the yelp she had started hyperventilating, and she couldn’t do anything but stare at that look on her mother’s face.  Pain or no pain, blood or no blood, she was frozen, and the world was frozen with her for a second.  And then her mom started screaming.  Hope wasn’t sure what she expected, but that scream finally told her what the look on her mother’s face was, and it made no sense.   She couldn’t tell what her mother was actually saying, but the tone told her she was afraid.  Her mom was afraid of her.  Not worried about her, not concerned, not freaked out even, just afraid.  She’d known her mom would react even to this selfishly, but she couldn’t figure out why she would be afraid.

Hope was still frozen there, still hyperventilating, still unable to move or say anything but she was able to think a little, and register just enough of her surroundings to realize her hands were raised, and one of them still had the razor blade in it.   So that’s why her mom was afraid.  She tried to put it down and couldn’t.  The more her mom screamed the harder it was to think about anything but just trying to breathe, and soon the world disappeared.

Hope didn’t think she’d actually blacked out, but she didn’t remember moving.  She wasn’t sure where her mom had gone, or how long it had been since she’d walked in on her.  She found herself cowering in the corner of the tub, and she had bled all over the bathroom rug.  She thought about trying to start cleaning up, but she still couldn’t move.   She wasn’t sure there was any point, anyway.  Her life was over.  The more she thought about that look on her mom’s face the more sure she was that things had gotten abruptly worse, and would never get better.   If she could have moved right then she probably would have slit her wrists, but she couldn’t.  She had calmed down, she was breathing normally, but something had broken inside of her, and she was incapable of making the decision to move.

Hope had no idea how long she’d been curled up there before her mom finally returned.   Mom had her camera, of course.  Hope couldn’t even ask her to stop taking pictures.  She just sat there and watched her world crumble around her.   Everyone would know, now.  And her mom was still afraid.  She could see it lurking in her angry eyes.  Hope could tell she was no longer just broken in her mother’s eyes, Hope was evil, now.  There was no longer any veil, however thin, between this autism her mom was at war with and herself.  Hope had become the monster.

The next few months were a blur.  There were ambulances and police and social workers and psychiatrists and doctors and medications, and Hope didn’t care about any of them.  She was gone.   Locked somewhere behind the eyes everyone was always so keen on being able to see into.  She let them look all they wanted, now.   Maybe someone would find her.


Mary had known Hope’s mom for a long time.  They had gone to the same elementary school, and lived fairly close to each other, so Mary used to run into Hope and her mom on the playground when she took her nephew, Jack, there to play.   Mary was a teacher, and had worked with autistic kids for a few years.  Jack was autistic, too, and she had done a lot of research on it, both for work and for her sister’s benefit.  The first time she met Hope she knew something was off, but she didn’t want to be rude, so she didn’t say anything.  Eventually she did ask Hope’s mom if she had gotten her evaluated, but she was distracted at the time and Mary decided it was best to back off.

A few years passed by and Hope ended up in the same kindergarten class as Jack.  Mary got to talking with her mom at a school event one day and found out she had received an autism diagnosis the year before.  They exchanged email addresses and Mary had sent her some information, but they hadn’t really talked after that.  Mary figured she was overloaded and backed off again.

As the kids grew older, social networking and blogging became all the rage, and Hope’s mom started writing about her life.   Mary had been connected with the local autism network for years.   It’s a small community, and one day Mary saw a blog entry with Hope’s face on it.  Her mom was blogging under a pseudonym, and calling her daughter Sue.  Hope was adorable, and always had been.  It turned out her mother was a pretty good photographer, and that’s what drew Mary in at first.   She started reading some of the blog entries, and soon felt connected to Hope’s family in a way she hadn’t been able to manage before.  After a while she tried reaching out via email again, and Hope’s mom was much more receptive this time around.

They became fast friends.   She seemed desperate for a way to help her daughter, so Mary shared some of the links she rounded up a few years back for her sister.   Her sister had never been particularly interested in them, but Mary had talked to other parents who swore that some of the treatments had saved their children, and she wanted Hope to have every chance she could. She was a pretty odd kid, but she was beautiful, and she seemed to be fairly bright underneath it all, perhaps one of the new diets would work for her and she’d be able to come out of her shell.

As the years went on, Mary started to distance herself from them a bit, though.  Hope was doing so much better, but her mom just kept getting more and more angry.   Mary kept up with the blog for a while, but stopped visiting and emailing.  Eventually she got sick of the anger and stopped reading the blog.

When she picked up the newspaper that day her heart sank, and she felt guilty.  Hope was on the front page.  The once beautiful girl was laying in a hospital bed with dazed eyes.  The article said she had tried to kill her mother a few months ago, and had been in and out of treatment facilities ever since.  Her mother was now fighting for services that her insurance just didn’t want to pay.  Mary’s twinge of guilt was for not keeping in touch.  Here her friend had been facing this horrific ordeal, fighting for months, and Mary hadn’t even known.  She had never understood why there was so much anger, but there must have been a lot more going on behind the scenes.   Mary should have been more understanding.  She should have kept in touch.  Maybe she could have done something to help.

She sent flowers to their home, and spent the next couple of days trying to catch up on the blog entries she’d missed over the years.  They painted a bleak picture, indeed.   All that suffering, and Mary had been indifferent.  Hope was just a cute face to her, with some oddities.   She had never realized how hard it must have been to raise her.

Over the next few months she made sure to keep in touch with Hope’s mom, and offered help whenever she could.   She even helped with paperwork and petitioning the insurance companies.   Since she had worked in the school system, she helped Hope’s mom navigate the bureaucracy there, and get the helps in place that they’d need so that Hope could go back to school when she came home.

They had both changed, Hope and her mom, but it was understandable after such an ordeal.   The news article had stirred up a lot more attention than they were used to, and internet trolls had come pouring out of the woodwork.   Most blog readers were fellow parents, and they understood how hard it was.  But some of these new people were just crazy.   They started attacking Hope’s mom, as if she had been the one doing something wrong.   As if it was somehow her fault her daughter had tried to kill her with a razor blade.  Mary couldn’t understand it.   Did people have no compassion?   Couldn’t they see this family was hurting?


Everything had fallen apart. She couldn’t even stand to look at her blog anymore.   She’d been at war with autism for years on end… it had finally tried to strike a fatal blow, and everyone thought she was over-reacting.   Her own daughter had tried to kill her.  She had photos to prove it.   But ever since her story went national people had been attacking her for no reason, as if it was all her fault.

She still had friends.  Most of her blog readers had gathered around her, a lot more people than she realized were on her side, but it didn’t seem to matter.  There were whole organizations that aligned against her and started harassing her every time she posted anything.   They called themselves autistic, as if truly autistic people have the ability to communicate that well.  The whole situation was ridiculous, but that didn’t slow the onslaught.  Before long she was weary of the fight and all the fun was gone from blogging.  She still posted, just to keep her loyal readers updated, but she didn’t even bother to read the comments anymore.   She set it up so a friend could monitor the comments — Mary just deleted all of the attacks so she wouldn’t have to see them.

Hope was gone.  She barely even communicated anymore, and when she did it was usually to lash out.  They had to keep her medicated, and even under sedation she had caught her trying to to steal a knife out of the kitchen in the middle of the night.  Hope had lunged at her and tried to kill her a second time.  Autism had won, at least in this family, and there wasn’t much point in fighting anymore.  She should have tried the treatments earlier, but she was young and stupid and had no idea what she was setting herself up for by ignoring the truth for so long.

It was clear that her life was never going to be anything but fighting doctors and insurance companies and her own daughter just to survive.   Every time they decided to send Hope home she had a panic attack just thinking about it.  One of these nights her own daughter was going to stab her in her sleep, and there was nothing she could do about it.  Perhaps she really should have refused the leech, all those years ago, when she wanted to nurse.   She had no idea what to do, now.


As it turned out, hell on earth did have an ending, and Hope was glad to see it coming.  She would rather be anywhere else, doing anything else, but there was no life for her anyway.  Not now.  Not broken like this.  She could only hope that God wasn’t duped by her mother’s story, the way so many others had been.  He should understand, right?   She couldn’t tell her side of things.  She had tried, but the words wouldn’t come out.  She had managed a few words a time or two, but the people she was trying to talk to had gotten frustrated and walked away before she could get her story out.  After a while she stopped trying.  But she shouldn’t have to try with God, right?  She hoped so, anyway.

She didn’t know where He’d been all this time, He sure hadn’t seemed to be protecting her.  Her mom had taken her to church for a while when she was younger.  The teacher there said that Jesus would be her friend if she asked Him to be, and she had really needed a friend.   She had said the prayer the woman taught her, and meant it.  She had been talking to Him ever since, in her mind, wher she could use pictures when the words wouldn’t come, and sometimes He seemed to answer.   She didn’t know why He never stepped in to help, but she hoped He’d be waiting for her when she got to the other side.

This had been a really bad day, in a string of really bad days, and weeks, and months.   They had sent her home, again. She hadn’t know whether she wanted to be home or not.

Home meant having to see the hatred and fear in her mom’s eyes again, but at least there were no restraints.   It hurt that her mom was afraid of her, but at least she usually left her alone.  The shrinks always wanted her to talk, bugged her endlessly about it, then interrupted her as soon as she managed to get a word or two out, to tell her that she’d never get better if she refused to communicate.  Most of the other patients in those places were just as broken as she was, and some of them made noises worse than the neighbor’s old lawn mower.   She couldn’t escape, and they weren’t about to let her near a knife, so she had to find other ways to deal with it, no matter how bad they looked, and that usually meant crouching in a corner and banging her head on the wall.   This, of course, was seen as proof of further regression.  They had tried to teach her other ways of coping, but they were all useless.

The last time they sent her home she had made a huge mistake.  She had thought that perhaps, if she could find a knife, she could keep it hidden and the pain would allow her to gain some control and find herself again.   Everyone kept trying to tell her that cutting was dangerous and pointless, but they were wrong.   She had done it for a long time, and it had been working.  If her mother hadn’t barged in on her that day, everything would be fine.   She’d have been close to graduating high school and escaping her mother altogether by now.   Instead she was broken.   Broken beyond repair, probably, but maybe, just maybe, she could fix it if she could gain control again.

Something in the back of her mind kept telling her that the cutting really was damaging, but even if it was, it was only damaging her mind, and that was broken already.   She figured she had nothing to lose at this point, so after thinking around in circles on it for quite a while, she decided to try to find a knife one night.  She had tried to be quiet, she had gotten to the kitchen, found one, and was running back to her room with it when her Mom heard a noise and came out to see what was going on.  Hope ran right into her.  Seriously.   The universe had a sense of humor, and Hope was the butt of the joke.

Of course, her mom freaked out once again and told everyone she’d run at her, with a knife, in the middle of the night.  With a story like that, Hope had never expected to to see her home again, but apparently there was some mix-up with insurance or something, and here she was.

More precisely, she was laying in the middle of the living room rug, which was slowly turning red.  She could see the puddle growing in the mirror on the wall, and she knew it wouldn’t be long.  Her mother was on the phone in the next room, saying something hysterical to a 911 operator.   Hope decided she didn’t want her last minutes full of her mother’s lies, so she was attempting to block out the sound.

Hope was still trying to make sense of the day, anyway.   Mom had gone around in a daze for days after she had gotten home, mumbling about how her life was ruined yet again, how she just couldn’t handle this again.  She had spent every evening drinking wine and crying on Mary’s shoulder while Hope did her best to just stay out of the way.

But then this morning came and Mom was back to normal.   Back to how she used to be before the fear showed up in her eyes.  The hatred was still there, but it didn’t seem as strong somehow.   She took Hope out for supper at her favorite restaurant, and even let her get dessert.   She hadn’t even lost her temper when an ambulance went by on the car ride home, and the noise made Hope rock in her seat.

When they got home Mom said she had a surprise for her, and pulled out Hope’s old pocket knife.  Her mom was saying something as she handed it over, but Hope was so dumbfounded she didn’t hear it the first time.  After a minute or two she regained enough composure to ask her Mom what she’d said.  “Maybe you needed this after all,” she said.   Then she gave Hope a hug, and walked away.  Hope was still standing there in shock a few minutes later, opening and closing the familiar blade; enjoying the feel; wondering why Mom had suddenly changed so much; wondering what the catch was.

And then Mom walked back in, holding a gun Hope had never seen before.   Pointing it straight at her.  Wearing the biggest smile Hope had ever seen on her.   The last thing she heard before the explosion was “I win”.

Hope was still perplexed, but she knew one thing.  Mom did not win this war.  There was no war, because Hope stopped fighting a long time ago, and if anyone was winning here, it was Hope.  Her hell on earth was over.  She knew she wouldn’t survive this.  She could feel herself slipping away.   She had a peace she’d never felt before, and she knew who was waiting on the other side.   It was time to go home.


Mary couldn’t believe the news the next day.  Hope’s mom had planned such a special day for her, it had seemed to go so well… but that didn’t keep Hope from trying to kill her anyway.  She had nearly succeeded this time, and her mother had been forced to protect herself.  The community had lost a child, and nearly lost one of it’s best warriors, and she had nearly lost a good friend.  All because the system had ailed, and sent Hope home when they knew it wasn’t safe.


Hope’s mother, now free to travel, started giving speeches across the country, campaigning for more services and raising funds for a cure.   She had won the battle in her own home, and she would win this war eventually.

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He wrote me a story!

If you know me at all you should be aware that I totally love nursery rhymes and fairy tales and the like, and I’ve most recently been plugging my friend Fred’s ebook of fairy tales (see that Neverwas book cover over there? –>) along with some of his other stories.   You should totally go buy the book.

Anyway, it seems that Fred decided to take Goodread’s request that you “tell a story of how you met” literally, and he wrote this cute little fairy tale for me.  How totally sweet is that?!  It’s a fun read, and I hope you enjoy it…


Little Green Stocking Cap
by Fred Grenvile © 2011

This is a little tale that I wrote as an allegory of the way Tam and I met. Viewed one way I guess it could seem cheesy or patronizing, but the real details are private and this is close enough to get the gist across. Since Tam has expressed a real fondness for my alternate fairy stories and fables I thought I’d use that as the basis. I like the way it turned out but welcome comments here and on my own site at

Fred Grenvile

Once upon a time a Big Bad Wolf met a little girl wearing a dark green stocking cap. The wolf greeted the little girl politely and she told him that she was called “Little Green Stocking Cap” because she was never seen without it, for an evil fae had cursed her to never remove it. She was called thus for so long that soon everyone had forgotten she’d had any other name, even she! Little Green Stocking Cap was wandering the woods on her way to find a house she’d heard was made of sweets. She had left her own home because her poor parents could not help her to remove the heavy green cap, and for shame they made her wear a silly bonnet to cover it when ever she went out of the house. Green was quite courteous to the wolf, which was quite a novelty for him indeed. But when they had spoken for a time, Little Green Stocking Cap remembered that wolves had an unfair reputation for eating little girls right up. She became frightened and ran away very fast.

Green Stocking CapNow the wolf had just remembered that the house of sweets had a very bad reputation, indeed. So, valiantly, he attempted to warn the little girl that what was sweet to the taste could turn sour on the stomach. But Green ran very fast and he became winded, so with a snarl he turned and went on about his wolfly pursuits.

Green Stocking Cap did not trust his quick retreat and continued as fast as her little legs could carry her. Just when she thought she could not run another step, there in the next clearing she saw the great house made of sweets. The walls were chocolate cake and the windows were sugar candy. Each tile of the roof was made of a different kind of chocolate delight. With a cry of joy, Green Stocking Cap ran and flung herself on the sweet-tart steps of the house and fell fast asleep.

Just as it fell dark a beautiful princess appeared and opened the door to the sweet house and invited Green Stocking Cap in. Green was very tired and the princess was so beautiful that she trusted her instantly and was soon fast asleep in a bed of her very own, with sheets of spun sugar and pillows stuffed with kettle-corn.

For a time all was lovely in the fine, sweet house, then one day Green took a fancy to hold a celebration to thank the beautiful princess for her hospitality. Green waited until she was out then slipped into the the princess’ chamber to seek correspondence that might reveal what friends might visit to celebrate.

On a high chest Green found a writing box that held many letters and notes. As she was copying the most promising names, the princess returned and found her with her hand in the box. Before little Green could explain, the princess transformed and her true form was revealed to be none other than the same wicked hag that had cursed Green to always wear the cap!

Green gave a cry and ran from the house, just avoiding the clawed hand of the wicked fae. In her other hand was a great knife and Green had no doubt that should she be caught she’d soon be cut up and in the pot to boil!

Again, Green ran as fast as her little legs could carry her, but the cap snagged upon bushes and held her back, so that the fae gained upon her, calling all her wicked friends to aid her in catching the little girl. The fae truly did plan to feast that night!

Just as Green’s legs gave out and she fell to the soft mould beneath a great oak, the Wolf sprang out of the brush. Green’s heart quailed, for she knew she could not run another step. With the Wolf before her and the Hag behind, where could she turn. She was dinner for certain.

Just then the Wolf leapt and Green fell to the ground shivering, but he sailed right past and took a great bite from the Hag who had come up behind Green unawares. They fought and tussled in great fashion, but eventually the Hag was so bloodied she tore herself free and fled with a screech, grabbing a broken stick and flying off on her makeshift broom.

The Wolf led Green to an old shepherd’s hut by a glassy lake. It was none to clean, but Green soon found she had made a home and in time the local animals and herdsmen became a new family. And ever after the Wolf watched over her from the deep wood.


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The Thwarted Robin

I could have sworn I blogged about this a year or two ago, and I went looking today to find the blog entry so I could repost it, but alas, no luck.

Since I can’t find the entry I guess I’ll just write a new one. I’ve been reading a lot of fairy tales lately, so I thought I’d try my hand at a bit of (groan-worthy, I’m sure) creative writing…

Once upon a time, a night-owl lived by herself in a country home. She had a big glass patio door on the back of her kitchen, which let in far too much light. Being a poor girl, she hung an old sheet over it, since she hadn’t the means to buy a curtain. One day the girl needed to wake up for an important appointment, but prior experience told her she’d probably sleep through her alarm, so she prayed before she went to bed that God would help her wake on time.

The next morning, bright and early, she heard a really loud knocking sound, shortly before her alarm failed to go off (her subconscious, wanting to sleep in, had set it for PM instead of AM). Her sleepy body ignored the knocking and fell fast back to slumber, but the knocking continued, and she awoke again shortly after. Awake enough to realize this wasn’t a normal sound, she got up to check, and found a robin perched on her back porch post, patiently and curiously pecking at her kitchen door.

The girl was ecstatic. What a beautiful and wonderful answer to her prayers! She was up on time, and had only God to thank.

In her excitement, she didn’t think to shew the robin away, and he remained, enthralled with her window, for some time. After a while she finally realized it was his reflection that had so captivated him, and, finding this incredibly cute, she allowed him to stay.

Over the course of the next few weeks the robin returned time after time, and his patient pecking soon turned to singing and flapping and other antics. He would show up in the wee hours of the morning (much to the night-owl’s chagrin), and come and go the rest of the day as he found time. It didn’t take long for the girl to overcome her awe, and she soon started shewing him off. Only to have him return an hour or two later.

It didn’t seem to matter if the makeshift curtain were there or not, he could still see his reflection as long as the sun was shining. On rainy days he would just watch and wait patiently for the curious bird to return. On sunny days he continued his flirting.

In time, he fell in love with the beautiful bird in the glass, and decided it was time for a mate. Mating with a glass reflection, though, is no easy task, and proved to be a great challenge for the robin. His pecking turned to flinging himself against the window in every odd angle he could find, plastering and smearing it with droppings when he inevitably failed. But persist he did, and he returned daily to try, until the long winter came and he was forced to fly south.

The girl was glad to see the bird gone, and hoped he would forget his love, or find a new one, before next spring.

But alas, it was not to be. Come spring the bird returned to courting his shadow, and try as she may the night-owl could not find a way to block his view or scare him off. She eventually learned to sleep through all of his knocking and racket (which is why she can’t hear you at her door if you visit). For 3 years now, the bird has returned, ever faithful, to his mate, for true love cannot be denied, and songbirds mate for life.

And now that I’ve tortured you with this horrible excuse for a story, perhaps you’d like to read some quality stories? Check out my author friend Richard Fredrick Grenvile for some great stuff:
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